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Edition 4 of 4 · Difficult Conversations
The Conversation
Leaders Avoid
The most expensive thing in your organisation is the conversation nobody is having.
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The Series So Far
WEEK 1
Decisions Under Pressure
WEEK 2
Leading Without Answers
WEEK 3
The Trust Tax
THIS WEEK
The Avoided Conversation
Over the past three weeks, we have built something deliberately.
How to make decisions when the pressure is on. How to lead honestly when you don't have all the answers. How trust is built and eroded in small, invisible transactions.
This week closes the loop. Because there is one behaviour that connects all three of those challenges. One thing that compounds every leadership problem I have ever diagnosed - in the emergency department, in the boardroom, and in the coaching room.
The avoided conversation.
Clinical Parallel · Diagnostic Avoidance
A patient has been managing a symptom for months. Adapting around it. Rationalising it. By the time they arrive in the ED, what was once manageable has become a crisis. The symptom was never the problem. The avoidance was.
Most of the crises I see in organisations did not begin as crises. They began as conversations that nobody had. Feedback softened until it meant nothing. A conflict managed into silence. A performance issue tolerated because confronting it felt harder than absorbing it.
The most expensive thing in your organisation is the conversation nobody is having.
Why Leaders Avoid Difficult Conversations
Most leaders tell themselves they are being kind. They don't want to damage the relationship. They don't want to be wrong. They want more evidence before they say anything.
These are real feelings. But they are not the real reason.
The real reason is simpler and more honest: difficult conversations are uncomfortable, and discomfort is something the brain is wired to avoid.
When you avoid the conversation:
The underperforming team member assumes their performance is acceptable
The toxic dynamic in your team calcifies because nobody names it
The talented person who feels undervalued leaves rather than raises it
Your team stops trusting what you say because they sense what you are not saying
Every avoided conversation is a Trust Tax withdrawal.
The Four Conversations Leaders Avoid Most
The performance conversation.
Not the formal review. The real-time, specific, early conversation that happens when you first notice a pattern. Most leaders wait too long. The kindest performance conversation is always the earliest one.
The conflict conversation.
When two people are in conflict, most leaders mediate around it. What they avoid is the direct conversation with the person whose behaviour is driving it - often because that person is senior, difficult, or someone the leader depends on.
The expectations conversation.
"I thought you understood what was needed." The expectations were implicit. The standards were assumed. Nobody said clearly what success looked like - and failure was the only way the gap became visible.
The upward conversation.
Telling the person above you something they do not want to hear. A strategy that isn't working. A decision that was wrong. Most leaders manage upward by telling partial truths - giving enough information to feel honest, without saying the thing that actually needs to be said.
The SAID Framework
After years of navigating high-stakes conversations in clinical settings and coaching rooms, I developed a framework for having the conversation you have been avoiding.
Situation, stated plainly.
Begin with the observable fact, not the interpretation. "Over the last three weeks, the reports have been submitted two days late" is a statement. "You don't seem to be managing your time" is an interpretation. Start with what you can both agree is true.
Acknowledging impact.
Say clearly what effect the situation is having - on the team, the work, the person themselves. Not dramatically. Specifically. "When reports arrive late, the team cannot complete their analysis before the board meeting. That has happened twice now."
Inviting their perspective.
Before you prescribe, diagnose. Ask what is happening from their side. There is information you don't have. The underperforming team member may be dealing with something you know nothing about. Invite before you conclude.
Deciding together what changes.
The conversation ends with a specific, agreed action. Not a general commitment to improvement. A named change, with a named timeline, with a named accountability. SAID does not make the conversation comfortable. It makes it productive.
This Week's Leadership Practice
Identify Your Avoided Conversation
You know what it is. You have known for a while. Write down:
What is the conversation I have been postponing?
How long have I been avoiding it?
What is the actual cost of continued avoidance - to the other person, the team, and me?
Using SAID - what would the first sentence of that conversation actually be?
You do not have to have the conversation this week. But write the first sentence. That is where every avoided conversation eventually has to begin.
What I'm Reading This Week
Radical Candor - Kim Scott
Everything in today's edition connects to what Kim Scott calls the central challenge of leadership: caring personally while challenging directly. Most leaders do one or the other. They either care so much that they can't challenge - ruinous empathy - or they challenge so bluntly that the care doesn't land. Radical Candor is the best practical framework I know for the conversations this edition is about.
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Final Thought
In medicine, one of the most important skills a clinician can develop is the ability to sit with a patient and say a difficult thing clearly - without flinching, without softening it into meaninglessness, and without making the conversation about their own discomfort.
It is called delivering difficult news. It is taught. It is practised. It is never easy. But it is always an act of care.
The leaders who build the deepest trust are not those who avoid difficulty. They are those who walk toward it - who have the conversation early, specifically, and honestly, because they respect the person enough to tell them the truth.
Avoidance is not kindness. It is the most expensive form of cowardice available to a leader.
Lead honestly. Lead clearly. Lead with courage.
If this edition named the conversation you have been avoiding - forward it to the one person who most needs to read it with you. Sometimes the best way to begin a difficult conversation is to send someone this newsletter and say: we need to talk about this.
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Healthcare leader, executive coach, angel investor, and Group Head at Boulevard Group. He blends clinical experience, business strategy, and systems thinking to help leaders and organisations grow with clarity and impact.
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